This brings up a good point: How different are the emotions of a pregnant mom and a toddler? I cried yesterday because one of my dogs got out of the yard. I cried this morning because of my crazy work load. I cried 10 minutes ago because I read a heartwarming article.
That being said, my daughter cried yesterday because there was a stranger in the house. She cried this morning because I walked upstairs to take up a load of laundry. She cried 10 minutes ago because she couldn't reach something in her crib.
I try my best to be patient and be the serene nothing-gets-to-me parent that all the books request of you. The constant whining, and all time high separation anxiety, grate on my nerves and before I know it, my perm-a-grin fades and I say things like "Ok now, that's enough" or "Kenzie stop." Her emotions are just as crazy and valid as mine, right?!
If you can't share your emotions with your mother who can you share them with?
She wants to share her emotions with me. She runs to me when there is a stranger. She cries for me when I leave the room. She grabs my hand and points to what she wants. I want her to be able to share her emotions with me for the rest of her life.
Although it might be easy to blow it off now, there will be a day when she resents the fact that I am blowing off her emotions. That day turns into years of not speaking to me, running to her room as soon as she gets home, and looking to her friends for support because she doesn't get it from her mom.
From here on out, I will do my best to be supportive of all her emotions, even if I don't agree with them. I will acknowledge them and give them a name, so in the future when she starts talking she can tell me how she feels.
I know I won't be perfect at keeping my cool, but I will try and remember that even though we are 32 years apart, my emotions are just as crazy as hers... at least while pregnant.
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